DM behavior seems to be all the rage on Twitter right now. I
mentioned yesterday that I don’t partake in the exercise. Since I can’t fit the
reasons in 140 characters, here we go.
1. I Don’t Know You
Now, this is as obvious as they come. I know my FB friends.
I know what I can(‘t) say to them, and I know what I want to say. Twitter:
almost completely different. I know very few of my followers – those who post
regularly, anyway – and I have seen exactly zero of my female followers in the
last year. I have no clue what’s over the line. I have no desire to find out.
Shoot, I’m not even sure there’s anyone out there I’d want to push that
envelope with. I’m not saying anything against my female followers: they’re
very pretty and I’m sure they’re wonderful people. I’m just not sure any of
them is worth rejection…which is no departure from my ‘regular’ life, as I’m
not sure any woman is worth rejection.
2. What Would I Say?
Would I want to get to know someone? I’ve stated above why
I’m cool on that. Would I want to have a ‘private’ convo? No: what would be the
point in that? I don’t even know how far away my nearest follower is, but I
know that whoever it is isn’t close. “It’ll just be harmless fun”…I have friends
who I can have harmless (i.e. plutonic) fun with. Matter of fact, have a few I
haven’t talked to in a while. Don’t need anyone new.
“So you’re not interested in meeting any women without the
possibility of romance there?” Well, there are two ways to go with this. Since
I’m verbose, I’ll choose both. First, the theory: I have no problem meeting
anyone. Being sociable is fun, and there doesn’t have to be any kind of
attraction involved. People worry too much about that. Second, the practice:
can’t remember the last female friend I met. There are women I talk to, there
are women I’m cool with…but an actual friend? Yeah, it’s been a while.
3. Anything I Can Say, I Can Say In Public
Let’s ride…anyone who knows me knows that I have little
issue saying what’s on my mind. Taking that over to the current subject, if I
want to offer an observation/compliment to someone then I will do just that. I
don’t need a DM to tell someone they look good or that they say interesting
things: I can say that stuff in a regular tweet.
Maybe I’m developing into a prude as I grow older, but I
just don’t have the time to say things to women I don’t know that probably
shouldn’t be uttered in public. If you’re at that point of comfort, shouldn’t
you have some other form of communication to express such things?
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I definitely see and agree with your points. Two times in the past few months my friends have called out guy by name for trying to pull some nonsense in the inbox.
ReplyDeleteI don't do it too often, but it comes in handy when you don't want a bunch of strangers to know that you're looking for suggestions for a party venue...lol...just an example of what I sent a DM about today :-).
Aside from exchanging phone numbers or asking more sensitive questions, I don't differ too much from you. But I make use of the DM as a quick aside(like a whisper in their ear).
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